This is quite an important post because it’s about you. Good self-esteem (feeling good about yourself), in my humble opinion, is the most important factor in being good at sex, good at relationships, good at chatting people up, good at being a mate, good at parties and good at looking after yourself.
An important thing to remember here. Self-esteem is not always something we can control. Our health (physical and mental health*), our financial situation, our identity and experience of stigma, the way we are treated by others because of who we are, our ability can all affect how we feel about ourselves. But by changing things we can control we can make us feel better about ourselves.
(*If you’re regularly feeling crap/down/shit then maybe try visiting this brilliant website or speak to your GP about things)
It’s quite difficult to change feelings but you can change thoughts or behaviours. If we start to do positive things (things we know will make us feel better), even if we aren’t feeling very positive, this can kickstart some better self-esteem and we can start being better to ourselves. Need a self-esteem pitstop? Go to this page and pick 5 things about yourself.
Listen to this, it’s brilliant:
If you click on the picture an mp3 should open in your music program on your computer, you can also right click and save it to your computer or phone.
It’s about how to get good self-esteem. Make sure you listen out for the fart gag.
It’s taken from this book by David Hodgson. If I won the lottery I would buy a copy of this book for every teenager in the UK. They have a great website too with other great downloads and extracts. There’s also a personality type quiz where you can find out whether you are a Black Bear, an Eagle or a Clown Fish (that would be me).
For all you adults reading this who are interested it’s a combination of Jungian personality theory and NLP. You should read it too, but you’ll have to get your own copy.
Shout out to Carol Painter and Jo Adams.
Brook THT FPA