Make Sex Last Longer

Check out my new vid or read in more detail below, or both! This is not for you young uns. Over 16s probably.

Hey you

So one of the most frequently asked questions I get from chaps is ‘how can I last longer before I come?’ Men often want sex to last longer but the average time it takes to orgasm or ejaculate (not exactly the same thing, I’ll explain another time) is just 3 minutes. If you jiggle your penis inside someone really quickly you are going to come, especially if you are a young man. (I’m sure some women have this problem too. Discuss.)

Most guys don’t have, what a doctor would call, premature ejaculation: some guys come before putting their penis inside someone and sometimes even before that. (Other guys have the opposite condition called retarded ejaculation, which can cause sweatiness, blue balls and bad backs.) Try some of these things below, if that doesn’t help I’d contact your local GUM clinic and talk to them about seeing a psycho-sexual counsellor who can really help. A GP may also be able to help with actual premature ejaculation (coming in a matter of seconds rather than minutes).

On a side note, there are a lot of companies who sell products that claim to help with sexual issues such as premature ejaculation and erection problems: they are usually completely bogus, unethical, untested and a waste of money. You can get help, for free, for any sexual problem you might have. As I said just now, you can go to your local sexual health clinic or talk to your GP. For more on this click here for Dr Petra’s blog post on this: she really knows her stuff.

So here are some tips for lasting longer: after that I’ll have a bit of a rant about how you should change up your ideas about what sex involves and avoiding boring heterosexual scripts.

1. Pre-emptive ejaculation

If you masturbate and ejaculate an hour or two before you plan on having sex then it means that you will last longer when you have sex. As seen in the film ‘There’s Something About Mary’.

2. Use a condom

Condoms can reduce the sensation of sex a little bit, this should help you last longer. Try thicker condoms or condoms with a delaying action (see here for more)

3. Give it a squeeze

If you start having penetrative sex and feel like you are going to come really early you can pull your penis out and give it a quick squeeze just under the bell end

This should give you a few more seconds or minutes of fun.

4. Tense up your pelvic floor muscles

You know when you go for a pee and you need to stop for some reason, the muscles that you use to do that (they kind of feel like they are up your arse), are the same ones you can use to prevent you from coming. So try it during sex and see if that works.

5. Start Stop Technique

This involves masturbating in your spare time (in fact frequent masturbating generally can help) in order to train your brain into working out when you are really turned on and about to come. Practice doing this when solo and it might work when you are with someone.

You should masturbate until you get very near that point when you normally come, then stop, think about something that turns you off, (like cricket). Once you feel that your orgasm / ejaculation is receding then start up again and repeat the process. It’s lots of fun.

6. Practice and intimacy helps

Sex is better in relationships and the more you do it the better it gets. It also means that you’ll be more comfortable with your body and with each other and less likely to freak out about it.

7. Good sex is not simply about a man putting his penis inside someone till he comes (warning rant alert)

Here’s the best tip for you: penetration is only a small part of sex! Either do loads of other stuff, or use your hands, and remember sex doesn’t stop when one of you has an orgasm (and great sex doesn’t have to include orgasms at all). Keep playing and pleasuring your partner until you’re feeling it again.

Guys, you might go soft after coming (that is the refractory period, which almost all men have, it’s normal and lasts for 10 to 30 minutes) but after a few minutes of kissing or pleasuring your partner or a great cup of tea, you can get hard again.

So change it up, switch the order around, don’t do it like they do in porn and enjoy it. Don’t focus on your performance, focus on how much you and your partner are enjoying it.

More Bishness

Dry Humping and Mutual Wanking a post for people worried about the risks of doing these really pretty safe things

How to Be An Amazing Lover

How to Have Entry Sex if you want to have entry sex, how to do it safely and pleasurably

Balls and Cumming: how it works

Withdrawal Before Cumming: not a great contraception but very very popular in porn

all text and images © Bish Training 2010

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5 responses to “Make Sex Last Longer

  1. simo

    it is the true im egyptain guy and when i make love i do this steps and working very good

  2. boost

    bro every time i am about 2 break that (cricket picture) pop up in my mind

  3. Overcome your premature ejaculation by limiting your own stimulation. For example, during intercourse, insert your penis but move very slowly in an out. Also, don’t allow a lot of movement. This will help you in overcoming your premature ejaculation and can be very stimulating for your partner.

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