Bish Guide to Dating

Dating is the best thing about being single. Here are some tips on how to do it. Got any other tips? Share them….

Ok I’m being a bit silly here; of course you’re gonna wash if you go on a date (right?). But the reason I mention it is that it’s important to feel sexy. So spend a bit of time to make yourself correct. Have a nice hot shower, or a bath. Put on your lucky pants, favourite T shirt and make sure you smell lovely.

Don’t go over the top. One of my twitter friends @ChinaBlue79 suggested that she’d wear an outfit that she’d wear for a second date: that way she feels and looks relaxed and confident rather than appearing to try too hard.

People always say when giving advice about dating and stuff ”just be yourself’. I don’t think you should just be yourself, I think you should be yourself at your very best.

On a date you are essentially selling yourself, you want to make a good impression don’t you? What do your friends say about you at your very best? Don’t talk yourself down, big yourself up in a sweet, cool and confident way.

People go on dates to find out more about another person, to impress another person, to find out more about themselves but mainly to have fun.

This doesn’t mean that you have to make jokes all the time (actually lots of people find that annoying), and you shouldn’t try to be something you are not. But try not to be deadly serious all the time (even if you are quite a deep person).

Try talking seriously about light-hearted topics, or talking light-heartedly about serious topics (death, sex, religion, politics).

Someone also said on twitter @ShaiyBae don’t give your date your life story otherwise there’ll be nothing left. Keep some stuff back as a nice little surprise (for example your knitting hobby).

Bitching about your ex isn’t cool, but talking about terrible dates you’ve had might work. What do you think?

If there is one thing to remember on a date it’s BE NICE. Your date might be really nervous, or not very good at the above; so look upon your date with kind eyes.

Chatting is important but so is listening. People really like it when you show that you are listening to them. So sum up what they have just said, or pick out the key thing in what they are saying, to prove that you are listening. That’s a such a great tip: even though I say so myself!

Just don’t make notes and don’t remember every single detail, some people find that a bit odd and stalkery.

(hey fans in the Netherlands, you might not like this expression but at least I didn’t use clogs, tulips, windmills or a massive spliff in my illustration)

I think that if I could force everyone in the world to do one thing on a first date then that would be to split the costs of the date in two. Reason? Dunno. I reckon that the person not paying could feel like they owe the other person something, eg another date, a snog, a compliment etc. I don’t like that.

If it’s awkward going Dutch (if you are British, anything to do with £ is always awkward), then you could pay for different things (one person pays for the hot dogs, the other pays for the dodgems).

Also you might not have much cash: don’t worry you can still go on really romantic and cheap/free dates. Get a coffee/hot chocolate and go for a walk in a nice park. Sit in a cafe and people watch. Go to a funfair. Go to a gallery or museum. Have a really quiet date in a library and look up rude pictures or go for a date on the Circle Line.

You might really start to like each other.  Woo hoo! That’s great. Just make sure that you aren’t really drunk, or full from dinner. Remember that it’s up to you to decide how far you go. Don’t get carried away and do something you don’t want to do. A date and a snog can be bloody brilliant. Sometimes holding back the physical stuff can be more fun. But that’s up to you too!

What do you think?