Many people having sex with penises have relied on ‘withdrawal before coming’ for years as a method of preventing pregnancy and as a method of safer sex. In theory taking the penis out of a partner before ejaculation should prevent pregnancy (and/or infection), but it’s not as straight forward as it sounds.
1. Males often start to ejaculate before they realise. A couple of spurts of semen can come out of the penis before the male takes the penis out.
2. Sometimes sex can lead to ejaculation for the male but not always an orgasm (or the feelings of excitement that someone usually has when they have an orgasm). So they could fully ejaculate in their partner without realising.
3. It’s very hard to do if the male is really really enjoying it. The feeling of ejaculation and orgasm (when they come together) inside someone can be very very pleasurable. Getting carried away is easily done.
4. Pre-cum. Pre-cum is a little bit of fluid at the tip of the penis (this fluid cleans the urethra in preparation for the next ejaculation). It’s *possible* for there to be some sperm in pre-cum which could (theoretically) cause pregnancy as soon as the penis enters the vagina (ie way before ejaculation). This is very unlikely to cause pregnancy (especially if the male urinated after the previous ejaculation). More on pregnancy risks here. For more about pre-cum go here
5. STIs. Withdrawing the penis before ejaculation (if done successfully) might prevent the male transmitting some infections where the germs are in semen or blood (eg HIV) but it won’t prevent STIs where the penis is infected with something like chlamydia (where the germs can be in the pee hole). It also won’t prevent germs from blood or vaginal wetness getting into the penis through the pee hole or under the foreskin. It’s possible to infect someone with unusual discharge or pre-cum from the tip of the penis too. So as a method of safer sex it is nowhere near as good as using a condom.
6. It’s ok if you do this and use condoms. For people who use condoms, and are worried about them breaking, then withdrawing the penis, with the condom on, before ejaculation can make them feel a bit safer.
Remember also that if you choose not to ejaculate internally, ejaculating on someone is not everyone’s cup of tea, even though it is very very popular in porn.
Ejaculating On People (sex partners, not randoms in the street)
Contraception Sex Without Babies
How to Use a Condom yes me showing you on a plastic penis
© Justin Hancock, Bish Training, 2011