Make Sex Last Longer

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Make Sex Last Longer

How to deal with premature ejaculation and how to last longer. 

So one of the most frequently asked questions I get from men is ‘how can I last longer before I come?’ Men often want sex to last longer but the average time it takes to ejaculate is under 5 minutes.

Most guys don’t have, what a doctor would call, premature ejaculation: some people come before putting their penis inside someone and sometimes even before that. Some people have the opposite condition called retarded ejaculation, which can cause sweatiness, blue balls and bad backs. Try some of these things below, if that doesn’t help you contact your local GUM clinic and talk to them about seeing a psycho-sexual counsellor who can really help. A GP may also be able to help with actual premature ejaculation – coming in a matter of seconds rather than minutes).

On a side note, there are a lot of companies who sell products that claim to help with sexual issues such as premature ejaculation and erection problems: they are usually completely bogus, unethical, untested and a waste of money. You can get help, for free, for any sexual problem you might have. As I said just now, you can go to your local sexual health clinic or talk to your GP. For more on this click here for Dr Petra’s blog post on this: she really knows her stuff.

Tactical w*nk
If you masturbate and ejaculate an hour or two before you plan on having sex then it means that you will last longer when you have sex. As seen in the film ‘There’s Something About Mary’. People tell me this is called a tactical wank.

Use a condom
Condoms can reduce the sensation of sex a little bit, this should help you last longer. Try thicker condoms or condoms with a delaying action (see here for more)

Give it a squeeze
If you start having entry sex and feel like you are going to come really early you can pull your penis out and give it a quick squeeze just under the bell end. This should give you a few more seconds or minutes of fun.

Tense up
You know when you go for a pee and you need to stop for some reason, the muscles that you use to do that (they kind of feel like they are up your arse), are the same ones you can use to prevent you from coming. So try it during sex and see if that works.

Start/Stop w*nking
This involves masturbating in your spare time in order to train your brain into working out when you are really turned on and about to come. Practice doing this when solo and it might work when you are with someone.

You should masturbate until you get very near that point when you normally come, then stop, think about something that turns you off, (like cricket). Once you feel that your orgasm / ejaculation is receding then start up again and repeat the process.

Mindful w*nking
Linked to the last bit of advice there are other ways to practice through masturbating. Instead of masturbating towards orgasm, try to focus on what is actually happening to your body. Notice the tiny sensations in your body from the tips of your toes to the top of your head. Notice what happens and just try to enjoy it rather than thinking about what might happen next. If you do this you will be more in tune to your body when you have sex and you may even be able to have orgasms without ejaculating.

Practice helps
Sex is better in relationships and the more you do it the better it gets. It also means that you’ll be more comfortable with your body and with each other and less likely to freak out about it.

You don’t need an erection to have good sex
Here’s the best tip for you: sex does not have to mean penetration! This means you don’t need a hard on to have or enjoy sex. Either do loads of other stuff, or use your hands, and remember sex doesn’t stop when one of you has an orgasm (and great sex doesn’t have to include orgasms at all). Keep playing and pleasuring your partner until you’re feeling it again.

Guys, you might go soft after coming (that is the refractory period, which almost all men have, it’s normal and lasts for 10 to 30 minutes) but after a few minutes of kissing or pleasuring your partner or a great cup of tea, you can get hard again.

So change it up, switch the order around, don’t do it like they do in porn and enjoy it. Don’t focus on your performance, focus on how much you and your partner are enjoying it.

Title: Make Sex Last Longer

Category: Sex

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  • simo says:

    it is the true im egyptain guy and when i make love i do this steps and working very good

  • boost says:

    bro every time i am about 2 break that (cricket picture) pop up in my mind

  • Overcome your premature ejaculation by limiting your own stimulation. For example, during intercourse, insert your penis but move very slowly in an out. Also, don’t allow a lot of movement. This will help you in overcoming your premature ejaculation and can be very stimulating for your partner.

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