A guide to the vulva. Where the clitoris and G spot is. How the vagina works. Why and how people squirt.
This teaches you about sexual anatomy using the Bish ‘no bullsh*t’ brand. So yes of course I’m using the actual terms for things and there are some pictures and drawings too. Also this guide can only really teach you some of the basics – you might want to have a look at your own private parts (in private) to compare all this for yourself.
Labia (sometimes called vaginal lips or even ‘flaps’ by some people) are there to protect the clitoris, urethra and vagina. When someone is feeling really sexy (turned on/hot/etc) their labia fill with blood and swell up. They also part to reveal the clitoris and vagina and often feel moist when aroused. There are two sets of lips the inner lips and the outer lips. As you can see in the pictures here, they come in different shapes and sizes. For instance, sometimes the inner lips stick out above the outer lips sometimes not.
The vulva are the external sexual body parts, as you can see in this picture. Everyone’s vulvas look and feel different so maybe get to know your own vulva.
Lots of people don’t realise that they don’t pee out of the vagina. Above the vagina but below the clitoris is a small opening where urine leaves the body. This is also where a fluid leaves the body when some people ejaculate (this is thought to be a fluid a bit like semen). It’s also possible to get an infection in the urethra, this is know as a urinary tract infection. To prevent this it’s a good idea to try to have a wee after sex.
The clitoris is all about sexual pleasure and most people with one need it to be stimulated to have great sex. The penis and clitoris are very similar – so they can feel great to be touched, stroked, licked, rubbed, sucked or buzzed with a vibrator. Everyone is different though, so find out for yourself what you and they like.
If you look at the Vulva image above you’ll see that the clitoris looks quite small (about the size of a pea), but that’s only the bit that you can see. If you look at this image above you’ll see that the clitoris is actually really big. It is behind the labia and surrounds the vagina. The corpus cavernosa fills with blood which is then trapped to create an erect clitoris. The bulbs and legs become swollen and all throbby. On the outside the glans gets harder and swells – it’s packed with nerve endings and is estimated to be twice as sensitive as the penis glans (bell-end). This is the most sensitive part of the clitoris for many people. As the whole vulva swells sometimes the glans is hard to find but that area is still very very sensitive.
However other parts of the clitoris can also be stimulated through the outer lips but also inside the vagina ….
When the vagina is aroused it changes shape and size dramatically – as you can see in this picture. It gets much wetter, more relaxed and stretchy. Most of the stretching happens deep inside the vagina near the cervix. The fornix (the upper one and the lower one – or the anterior and the posterior for you sex geeks) stretches loads which means the full length of the vagina doubles in size. The fornix is where a penis or sex toy or fingers go. If the vagina isn’t aroused, the fornix doesn’t stretch and can make entry sex feel uncomfortable or painful.
The first third of the vagina is very sensitive as it is possible to stimulate the clitoris and prostate in that area, however many people find different parts of the vagina are more sensitive at different times. Some people find that the fornix area is very sensitive. Lots of people say the upper wall of the vagina near the opening is very sensitive .
This is thin folds of mucous tissue surrounding opening of the vagina – this used to be called the hymen. It stretches over time so the entry to the vagina opens more. The shape of the corona varies. It might bleed or hurt for first time sex but only if someone is not relaxed, or ready or turned on enough. Remember sex should not hurt. It should feel nice, first time and every time. It used to be said that the ‘hymen’ is a membrane of skin tissue which breaks: this is no longer accurate.
Cleaning the vagina
Vaginas have a natural scent, which varies from person to person. Lots of people like this smell, or don’t mind it, but some people don’t like it. You should take care when cleaning the vagina. The vagina has it’s own pH levels (acidity levels) caused by the natural discharge which travels along the vaginal canal – this discharge cleans the vagina. That’s right the vagina cleans itself (clever vagina). Getting any soap or too much water into the vagina can change the pH levels which can stop the vagina from self-cleaning, this can cause an infection which makes the vagina sore and smelly. So really, the best way to clean the vagina is to leave it alone!
Cleaning the vagina
The G spot
Many people find that the upper or front wall of the vagina has an area which is particularly sensitive to the touch and can have orgasms from having this area stimulated – many people call this the G spot. Not everyone likes this area to be touched and prefer different areas. But some really do. It can be sensitive because of the location of the clitoris but also the prostate.
The G spot
Formally known as the ‘Skene’s Gland’ the prostate surrounds the urethra – although it it varies in position and shape. It’s from here that some people ejaculate a fluid which is similar to semen when they orgasm – this is commonly known as squirting or just ejaculation. Just because someone is squirting doesn’t mean that they are having a ‘better’ or ‘more real’ orgasm than when someone isn’t squirting. Some people do and some people don’t. More on the history of the research of this here.
All images and text © Justin Hancock 2015
© Justin Hancock 2015