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May 8, 2011 · 12:52 pm

Pubic Privates

So lots of people choose to trim, shave, or wax the hair around their genitals, known as pubic hair, or pubes. They might do this because

  • They think it looks better
  • They want to make their penis look bigger
  • They prefer the feel of having fewer or shorter pubic hairs
  • They think that their partner might prefer it (for example, to reduce the chance of pubes getting in the mouth during oral sex)
  • Porn performers often have very trimmed pubic hair* and they may want to look like that (do people really do this?!)
  • It might be a cultural thing**

All fair enough. If you want to trim, shave or wax your pubes then do it: they are your pubes you can do what you like!

However, it’s important to know that pubes have a function. They help to lubricate and protect the genitals. They prevent friction burns if you like rubbing genitals with someone else (which is very popular apparently).

I’ve heard stories of people shaving or waxing their pubes and getting a rash or little spots, and then freaking out that they might have an infection. But this is commonly because of either friction burns or ingrowing hairs caused by waxing/shaving.

Also it’s thought that pubic hair can help to release our own natural scent which makes us attractive to other people (pheremones). But I wouldn’t advise that you deliberately grow your pubes really long in order to attract someone! Lots of people might not like this smell and choose to shave or trim: that’s fine. But also know that the smell is natural and meant to be there.

* Porn performers have trimmed hair because it’s then easier to see what’s going on. Also porn is very visual and people making porn think that people watching porn don’t want to see loads of hair, especially as the camera is pointing at people’s genitals for such a long time. Some might argue that porn performers, especially female porn performers, wax their pubic hair to make them look younger than they are.

** Pubic and body hair in general is often culturally specific. In some cultures pubic hair removal is seen as a normal thing to do. Also it seems to be accepted amongst most people in the UK (for example) that women should shave their legs and/or armpits.

Shout outs to Team Bish for reviewing this for me especially @crowjake and @marmaladelucy

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July 24, 2009 · 7:47 pm

Female Reproductive Body Parts

This explains about the female reproductive body parts and what happens during the menstrual cycle. For more about fertility go to this page

Vagina – The vagina is very stretchy and widens and lengthens when sexually aroused. It’s up to 6 inches long. It’s surrounded by lots of muscle so afer stretching it goes back to normal size.

Cervix – This is the neck of the womb.  There is a very small gap here allowing sperm to swim into the womb. During pregnancy the cervix part to allow the baby through. It’s also where smear tests are taken to  look for cervical cancer.

Womb / Womb Lining – Fertilized eggs attach here and grow during pregnancy. Before eggs are released a sticky lining is created so that a fertilized egg (embryo) can stick to the womb, starting pregnancy.

Fallopian Tubes – Where sperm meet eggs during fertilization.

Ovaries – Where eggs are stored and released. 1 or 2 eggs are released in each menstrual cycle (this is ovulation).

Menstrual Cycle

An egg (or two) is released from the ovary once in a menstrual cycle: this is known as ovulation and happens around halfway through the cycle (it is not at the same time as a period).

For pregnancy to start one sperm* needs to fertilise the egg, which then has to implant in the womb lining.

*There are up to 300 million sperm in every ejaculation, they can live for up to 7 days inside the female

The egg dies around 24 hours after being released. After that it is not possible to get pregnant until the next egg is released in the next cycle. Unfertilised eggs, womb lining and a little bit of blood then come out, a few days later, during a period. The first day of a period is the first day of a new cycle, as the graphic below shows…

Want more?

Fertility Explained

Contraception: Sex Without Making Babies

Busted! Contraception and Pregnancy Myths

 

This information available in a leaflet for purchase for educators and healthcare practitioners. Click here for details

© Justin Hancock, 2011 Bish Training


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· 5:11 pm

Female Sexual Body Parts

A guide to the Vulva, Clitoris, Labia, Vagina, Prostate and the G-Spot area.

This piece is taken from Sex Explained: A Real and Relevant Guide to Sex, Relationships and You.

Girls are often taught not to refer to their sexual body parts directly and to use terms like ‘lady parts’, or ‘private parts’ or ‘down there’.  The outer sexual anatomy is called the vulva: this includes the lips (labia), pubic hair, the clitoris, the urethra, the vagina and the vaginal corona. We talk frankly and honestly here at Bish.

Female sexual body parts are possibly not quite as easy to see as male ones: many young women like to have a look at theirs with a hand mirror between their legs. The more someone knows and understands their body, the more likely they will learn how to look after it, know when something is wrong, know how it functions and understand how it can give us pleasure.

So let’s start with the Labia

Labia (sometimes called vaginal lips or even ‘flaps’ by some people) are there to protect the clitoris, urethra and vagina. When someone is feeling really sexy (turned on/hot/etc) their labia fill with blood and swell up. They also part to reveal the clitoris and vagina and often feel moist when aroused. There are two sets of lips the inner lips and the outer lips. As you can see in the pictures above, they come in different shapes and sizes. For instance, sometimes the inner lips stick out above the outer lips sometimes not.

Pubic Hair

Lots of people shave or trim their pubic hair but lots don’t. Remember pubes have a function. Without them you might get more friction burns, spots or ingrowing hairs.

Urethra (pee hole)

Lots of people don’t realise that they don’t pee out of the vagina. Above the vagina but below the clitoris is a small opening where urine leaves the body. This is also where fluid (not urine) leaves the body when some people ejaculate. It’s also possible to get in infection in the urethra, this is know as a urinary tract infection. To prevent this it’s often advised to urinate after having entry sex.

Vagina

When someone is feeling sexy their vagina will get wetter, more relaxed and stretchy. It has loads of nerve endings on the outside and inside and feels really nice to touch and entry sex in the vagina (with a penis, fingers or a toy) can feel really really good. It is between 4.5 and 6 inches long. So long as the female is feeling relaxed, comfortable and very happy to be having sex, sex in the vagina should not feel painful – it should feel good.

Cleaning The Vagina

Vaginas have a natural scent, which varies from person to person. Lots of people like this smell, or don’t mind it, but some people don’t like it. You should take care when cleaning the vagina. The vagina has it’s own pH levels (acidity levels) caused by the natural discharge (whiteish fluid) which travels along the vaginal canal – this discharge cleans the vagina. That’s right the vagina cleans itself (clever vagina). Getting any soap or too much water into the vagina can change the pH levels which can stop the vagina from self-cleaning, this can cause an infection which makes the vagina sore and smelly. So really, the best way to clean the vagina is to leave it alone!

This is thin folds of skin tissue at the opening of the vagina (which used to be called the hymen). Fingers or penises or tampons can stretch it during first time sex. Occasionally it might bleed or hurt when it’s stretched for the first time, but not for most. For more about the vaginal corona go here It used to be said that the ‘hymen’ is a membrane of skin tissue which breaks: this is no longer accurate.

The clitoris is the key for sexual pleasure for most women. Unless it is touched, stroked, licked or buzzed with a vibrator directly most females would not be able to have an orgasm.

If you look at the Vulva image above you’ll see that the clitoris looks quite small (about the size of a pea), but that’s only the bit that you can see. If you look at this image above you’ll see that the clitoris is actually really big. It is behind the labia and surrounds the vagina.

When a female is feeling sexy the clitoris fills with blood and swells up. The outside part doubles in size (so it’s the size of a large pea) and feels hard. It is packed with nerve endings (it has around 8000 nerve endings, this is twice as many as the end of the penis) and is very very sensitive. This is why lots of people like to touch it lightly at first (perhaps through the clitoral hood).

Here you can see a cross section inside view of the vagina. We (well not me, researchers and scientists) are still discovering new things about the vulva. There has been a lot of debate about the prostate gland (formerly known as the Skene’s Gland) and the G-Spot in recent years.

Prostate Gland

There is a gland similar in shape and size to the male prostate which surrounds the urethra (it varies in position). Some females ejaculate a fluid (similar to semen) when they orgasm. This fluid comes out of the urethra and because of this a lot of people have confused it with urinating (lots of women report that they feel like they want to pee when they are close to having an orgasm). Urination before sexy times can prevent this feeling during sex.

G Spot

Many people find that the upper or front wall of the vagina has an area which is particularly sensitive to the touch and can have orgasms from having this area stimulated – many people call this the G-spot. Not all women like this area to be touched but some really do (there are some sexual positions which can enhance stimulation to this area). We don’t know why some people like this area to be touched, some people think it’s because it presses up against the prostate gland (and can cause some to ejaculate).

For a video from me about this click here

For the abstract of the original research about female ejaculation go here

Want more?

Clitoris – the video

Female Reproductive Organs womb, fallopians and ting…

Female G Spot and Ejaculation – the video

Ask Bish Female Ejaculation

Fertility Explained

Am I Normal?

Pubic Privates: they’re your pubes, shave them if you want to.

This information available in a leaflet for purchase for educators and healthcare practitioners. Click here for details

All images and text © Justin Hancock 2010 Bish Training

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July 22, 2009 · 6:34 pm

Balls and ‘Cum’

Testicles, Ejaculation, Testicular cancer, Ball checks, Prostate gland and ‘Pre-cum’ Explained

Balls refers to the delicate objects which reside in many males pants, in addition to the penis of course. They can be the source of tremendous pleasure and pain.

This post is also about ‘ejaculation’ or cumming (special young person spelling used). This only happens when you are hard and sexually excited. It can also happen in your sleep, which is normal, particularly if you haven’t been wanking.

Ball Check

A number of things can go wrong with your balls.  One of these is ball cancer which is very serious but also very rare. So be smart and in control: check your balls once a month

Get to know how your balls feel, so that you know if anything is unusual. They should be smooth and soft, like a hard boiled egg without the shell on. At the back you’ll feel the epididymis which will feel lumpy. Do this after a shower when your balls are hanging lower.

If you find any small lumps on your balls or if one of them has got noticably bigger or heavier then GO STRAIGHT TO A DOCTOR OR CLINIC. Ball cancer is easily treated if caught early enough. Most of the time it isn’t cancer, just a harmless cyst.  For more about this go here

Pre Cum Explained

Pre-cum is fluid which comes from the bottom of the urethra at the base of the penis (Cowper’s gland) before ejaculation. This is to make sure that the tube is clean and ready for the semen to be ejaculated out of. This fluid can appear at the top of the penis when it is hard.

If a guy has not urinated since his last ejaculation then some sperm could be present in pre-cum, and it is technically possible for this sperm to make his partner pregnant: although this is very unlikely.

People more likely to get and give an infection from pre-cum or unusual discharge (if either partner has an infection), which is why it’s important to put a condom on before the penis enters someone. For more about withdrawal go here and for more about pregnancy risks go here

Come Again? The Refractory Period Explained

After ejaculation males can’t usually get hard again for a few minutes (10 – 30 minutes, sometimes sooner, sometimes longer). This is called the refractory period and is totally normal. The good news is that, unlike in porn films, sex doesn’t have to stop when the guy comes. If you’re a guy and you keep doing sexy stuff with your partner you can get an erection again in no time (not that you need an erection to have great sex of course).

Or you can stop for a cup of tea if you both want, I don’t make up the rules.

More you say?

The Penis

Be Satisfied With The Size Of Your Penis there’s also a video of that here

Pubic Privates pubes are good, but they are yours to do with as you want

Don’t Compare yourself with Porn actors: they have to have bigger than average willies

How to Have Sex

© Justin Hancock, 2009.

(except the photographs, which are all available from here for CC
Many thanks to all the men that posted pictures of their bollocks!)

Brook THT FPA

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July 14, 2009 · 8:42 pm

The Penis, Hard Ons, Dick Size and Everything Else Explained

A guide to the Penis, Average Dick Size, Hard Ons, Foreskin, the Bell End and Frenulum.

This piece is taken from Sex Explained: A Real and Relevant Guide to Sex, Relationships and You.

Old Chap, Old Feller, Meat and Two Veg, John Thomas, Anthony are just some of the amusing names that men give to their penises. Here are a few facts below and actual pictures of erections which are purely for educational purposes and are properly legitimate… and not mine. Ok?

You probably don’t need me to tell you that penises have two main functions: peeing and cumming. A penis needs to be hard in order to cum and it is very very difficult to pee when the penis is really hard.

Erections can happen when a male is feeling really turned on (sexy) but can also happen at other times. In the morning when testosterone is at a high level (also known as morning glory: this has cock all to do with needing to pee, it’s just a coincidence ok?), or on a bus, or in a classroom, or at work. This can be embarrassing but there are ways that they can be hidden (hands in pockets, sitting down, pulling top down or even wearing two pairs of pants if it happens a lot).

Sometimes erections don’t happen when we really want them too. Even when males are feeling really turned on and wanting sex sometimes they can get the flop. This can happen for medical reasons: but usually it’s a temporary problem that is often caused by not being relaxed. This can be because of stress generally, worries about ‘performance’ (ironically worrying about staying hard can make it harder to stay hard), anxiety about being seen naked or about safer sex. Any kind of tension or anxiety can make an erection go away.

It’s also really important to remember that guys aren’t machines. It’s really important for guys to spend time getting turned on too (kissing, stroking, etc). In porn you only see guys with erections because if they lose their erection the director shouts ‘cut’, so please don’t compare yourself.

Penis Size

I’ve made a video about penis size which you can see here. Basically most penises are about the same size (around 5.5 inches) when erect but vary a lot more when they are soft. Guys who have a small looking penis when soft usually get a lot bigger when they get hard (grow-ers) and usually bigger looking soft penises don’t get much bigger, just harder (show-ers).

Penis size has nothing to do with how good sex can feel and there’s not a lot you can do about increasing penis size anyway. However, check the video out. There are a couple of cheats that can make guys feel a bit more confident about their penis size.

If foreskin doesn’t roll back easily then it could get damaged during sexual intercourse. If it is tight you can try some self-stretching exercises from NormUK. Try stretching the foreskin forward and then backwards as far as it will go, hold it for a few seconds and then let go and repeat. It might help to do this in the bath or shower as the warm water will help to stretch the skin. Little by little over a few weeks the hole (prepuce) will get bigger and so the foreskin should slide over the glans more easily.

Only do this if it is comfortable and be careful that it doesn’t get stuck (try and move it back straight away or go to a doctor). If in any doubt see your doctor, who may prescribe a steriod cream to loosen it or recommend circumcision: removal of the foreskin.

(The loosening of foreskin during puberty is a gradual process as the penis grows and through masturbation during adolescence, for a study on this click here)

If you have foreskin it is important to clean under it regularly to stop dick cheese (also known as smegma) building up.

The glans and frenulum are very sensitive and so are protected by foreskin. Some guys are circumcised (a surgical procedure where part of the foreskin is removed) which means that over time their glans might become less sensitive.

Spots (or papules) are very common but unusual lumps and bumps should be checked out in case it’s a STI.

More Bish Penis/Balls  related hings

Balls and Cum

Be Satisfied With The Size Of Your Penis there’s also a video of that here

Pubic Privates pubes are good, but they are yours to do with as you want

Don’t Compare yourself with Porn actors: they have to have bigger than average willies

How to Have Sex

© Justin Hancock (yes, it says cock), 2012 bishtraining.com

Male Health is such a great website. This one is about penis problems; some of it will make your eyes water…

http://www.malehealth.co.uk/userpage1.cfm?item_id=1351

This one is a toolkit for the penis

http://www.malehealth.co.uk/userpage1.cfm?item_id=127

This website is about how to look after your foreskin

http://www.norm-uk.org/

And if you want to look at some other men’s penises to compare (not porn) go to

http://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/Penis

This is another hilarious yet informative video from videojug

Sex Advice For Teens:
How To Hide An Unwanted Erection

Brook THT FPA

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