These are the posts about having sex, not having sex and everything in between.
When we have sex for the first time it’s important that we are properly ready. If we aren’t ready we might regret it: we all do things that we later regret but our first time sexual experiences can affect how we feel about sex later on. For more about this check out The Right Time to Have Sex and decide for yourself what this means for you.
We all get hassle to do stuff that we don’t want to do. Being hassled into having sex or going beyond what we feel comfortable doing is not cool. Saying no isn’t easy either but this piece helps Dealing With Pressure
But if you are thinking about having sex you should start by working out where you like to be touched and how you can tell someone this. Unless you’re thinking about shagging Derren Brown you probably will need to tell someone what you like, otherwise you will just be guessing and you could well be wrong.
There’s a difference between being turned on and wanting sex. Sometimes they come together (sorry) but often they don’t. Read more about Desire and Arousal
Sex is a lot more than just putting something inside someone. There are many ways that people can kiss, touch, stroke, whisper, nibble that can feel really really good. For more on this and why it’s particularly good for teens who are wanting to have sexy times check out How to be an amazing lover (without having sex)
The bases. An old fashioned idea about ‘how far’ people should go in a sexual relationship at what stage (or in this case base). Remember that it’s just an idea about how people manage their personal and sexual safety by knowing someone more before they get naked and have entry sex. Just cos you are in love or have big time feelings doesn’t mean you have to have sex. Anyway, what base is dry humping? The bases: You decide
Masturbation is the single best way to learn how your body works, what you like and how you can learn how pleasure and orgasms work for you. It’s a great way to learn how brilliant sex can be before you do it with someone else. Learn more about it here How to Masturbate
Loads and loads of young people ask me about the risks of getting pregnant from mutual masturbation and dry humping. There really is very very little risk of getting pregnant from this. I’ve explained why, and how to make this even safer, here Mutual Masturbation and Dry Humping Pregnancy Risks
Contrary to what you might have heard, not all young people are getting pissed on cider in the park and having sex(also many adults don’t tell you that they used to do this and that often they drink before they have sex too). This post tells you why it’s probably not a great idea to shag when pissed or stoned. Booze, Drugs and Sex
This website is aimed at young people who are thinking about having sex for the first time. It’s got loads of stuff about safer sex, the law, the right time, how your bodies work and why you shouldn’t do it like they show you in porn. So it would be odd for me not to tell you how to have sex. This post gives you some pointers on how to make first time sexy times good, respectful, pleasurable and memorable.How to Have Sex
This post is for people who want to make sex last longer (for people who think they might have problems with premature ejaculation)
Remember if you want to ask me a question about any of this click ‘ask’ at the top of the page.
© Justin Hancock, 2012 bishtraining.com
sex education, teen health, relationships, sexual health
