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Video: Female G Spot, Prostate and Ejaculation
Hey there. Here’s another video from me which I hope is a straight forward guide to the G Spot, Prostate and Ejaculation works. This is embedded from youtube, so if you can’t see anything below, you’ll have to buy the video when it comes out!
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Video: Bish Guide to the Clit
I got bored, so I made another video… It’s embedded on you tube, because I’m a cheapskate; so if you can’t see anything below, your network admin has probably blocked you tube. Apologies.
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How To Masturbate – the joys of solo sex explained
A guide on how to masturbate for males and females. Masturbation is totally fine, though not compulsory. Here are tips to make sure that you’re doing it safely.
This piece is taken from Sex Explained: A Real and Relevant Guide to Sex, Relationships and You.
Masturbation (wanking, frigging, tossing one off, choking the chicken, bashing the bishop, ‘staying in to wash my hair’) is great*. It’s teaches you about your body and how you can give yourself pleasure. It’s good to know how brilliant sex can feel before you start doing it with someone else. It’s also good as a stress reliever can loosen foreskin and many people find it helps with period pain. Most people do it because can feel so good and there’s nothing wrong in it – but it’s not compulsory, if you’re not feeling it that’s totally fine too.
Pro-Tip Make sure you’re in private and that you aren’t going to be disturbed (there’s a classic story about a mum bringing in a cup of tea). Also give yourself enough time to really enjoy it rather than just trying to ‘knock one out’ quickly (though sometimes doing it really quickly can be good too.)
*It does not make you go blind. It does not make you lose strength. It does not make you a weaker man. It does not make you a ‘slag’.
The clitoris has a skin ‘hood’ covering it to protect it as it is really sensitive. Try moving the hood over the clitoris in circles or from side to side or up and down or whatever feels good. Touching the clitoris directly can feel nice: try touching it lightly with wet fingers. You should feel the clitoris get harder and the whole vulva should start to get wet and feel sensitive and sexy.
Lots of people like to masturbate by putting their fingers inside the vagina. Different parts of the vagina feel sexy to different people. Lots of people like touching the front wall of the vagina (behind the clitoris): the ‘G-Spot’ area. The vagina will usually be wet if the person is aroused but some people find they need a bit more lubricant, such as water based lubricant or even their own saliva.
Pro Tip: probably a good idea to make sure that finger nails are trimmed and smooth before putting them inside
Lots of people like using sex toys to masturbate. There are lots of different ones for the clitoris, vagina, anus and penis. If you are going to use them you should also get some lubricant. If you plan to share them or use them in different openings you should clean them or put condoms on in between. You usually need to be 18 to get sex toys. To see what sex toys look like go to Sh! Womenstore
This is probably the most common way to masturbate penises. The hand acts like a pump moving the foreskin back and forward over bell end which is a very sensitive part of the penis. For circumcised penises, this is still a popular method, but they may need additional lubrication so that the bell end doesn’t get dry and sore (vaseline, cocoa butter, baby oil, water based lube if you’re using condoms).
It’s often a good idea to try something a bit different with penises so that masturbation doesn’t get boring. Many people like to try gently stroking the bell end with light strokes and wet fingers. Many people like to touch the frenulum (the skin on the underside of the bell end).
You can try anything else that feels nice*. Different lubricants, using two hands, using the other hand, turning the hand around the other way, lying in a different position, trying to delay coming for as long as possible (this helps to control when you orgasm/ejaculate), using more than one sex toy, penetrating the anus (use lube, wash hands afterwards and before touching any other part of the body), using water, using a shower head, doing it in the bath (don’t hog the bathroom though), massaging the testicles, rubbing against a pillow, stroking nipples, not using your hands at all (some people report being able to orgasm without any touch at all), feathers, moving your hands in a different direction, touching yourself in other areas.
*As my driving instructor used to say, “if it feels good, do it.” Though bear in mind, I still can’t drive…
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Songs About Self-Love
There have been so many great songs in the history of modern popular music that I thought it would be remiss of me not to put a couple in here.
This is ‘Vibrate’ by Outkast which also seems to celebrate black history, and as it’s Black History Month this is very relevant!
This is John Peel’s favourite song (if you don’t know him, you should); ‘Teenage Kicks’ by The Undertones. The beginning is missing, which is annoying, anyway…
And this is ‘I Touch Myself’ by Divynls
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Am I Normal? (nsfw?)
(there are educational photographs of women’s vulvas on this page. I think it’s ‘safe for work’ but you may disagree. So beware! Vulva’s are dangerous and unsafe!) Brook THT FPA
The short answer to this is probably YES.
But I know that you love reading my blogs and would be really disappointed if I wasn’t going to waffle on.
Anyway my mate Lauren told me to do this blog (hi Loz) because she heard something on the radio about how girls are wanting surgery on their vulvas because they think that they aren’t normal. So I’m going to show you what they can’t show you on the radio: lots of pictures of perfectly ‘normal’ vulvas.
They are all different and all normal. So don’t compare yourself to women in porn films this is what they look like. Got that?
NB (14.4.11) most of these vulvas are shaved, they’re just the best pics I could find. I reckon most women don’t shave their pubes, it has an important function.
Female Sexual Body Parts how the clitoris works
Pubic Privates: they’re your pubes, shave them if you want to.
Don’t Compare! yourself with porn actors
Big Up Yourself because you are a lot more than just your vulva
If you want more pictures or want to download them for yourself they are available here http://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/Vulva
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Female Sexual Body Parts
A guide to the Vulva, Clitoris, Labia, Vagina, Prostate and the G-Spot area.
This piece is taken from Sex Explained: A Real and Relevant Guide to Sex, Relationships and You.
Girls are often taught not to refer to their sexual body parts directly and to use terms like ‘lady parts’, or ‘private parts’ or ‘down there’. The outer sexual anatomy is called the vulva: this includes the lips (labia), pubic hair, the clitoris, the urethra, the vagina and the vaginal corona. We talk frankly and honestly here at Bish.
Female sexual body parts are possibly not quite as easy to see as male ones: many young women like to have a look at theirs with a hand mirror between their legs. The more someone knows and understands their body, the more likely they will learn how to look after it, know when something is wrong, know how it functions and understand how it can give us pleasure.
So let’s start with the Labia
Labia (sometimes called vaginal lips or even ‘flaps’ by some people) are there to protect the clitoris, urethra and vagina. When someone is feeling really sexy (turned on/hot/etc) their labia fill with blood and swell up. They also part to reveal the clitoris and vagina and often feel moist when aroused. There are two sets of lips the inner lips and the outer lips. As you can see in the pictures above, they come in different shapes and sizes. For instance, sometimes the inner lips stick out above the outer lips sometimes not.
Pubic Hair
Lots of people shave or trim their pubic hair but lots don’t. Remember pubes have a function. Without them you might get more friction burns, spots or ingrowing hairs.
Urethra (pee hole)
Lots of people don’t realise that they don’t pee out of the vagina. Above the vagina but below the clitoris is a small opening where urine leaves the body. This is also where fluid (not urine) leaves the body when some people ejaculate. It’s also possible to get in infection in the urethra, this is know as a urinary tract infection. To prevent this it’s often advised to urinate after having entry sex.
Vagina
When someone is feeling sexy their vagina will get wetter, more relaxed and stretchy. It has loads of nerve endings on the outside and inside and feels really nice to touch and entry sex in the vagina (with a penis, fingers or a toy) can feel really really good. It is between 4.5 and 6 inches long. So long as the female is feeling relaxed, comfortable and very happy to be having sex, sex in the vagina should not feel painful – it should feel good.
Cleaning The Vagina
Vaginas have a natural scent, which varies from person to person. Lots of people like this smell, or don’t mind it, but some people don’t like it. You should take care when cleaning the vagina. The vagina has it’s own pH levels (acidity levels) caused by the natural discharge (whiteish fluid) which travels along the vaginal canal – this discharge cleans the vagina. That’s right the vagina cleans itself (clever vagina). Getting any soap or too much water into the vagina can change the pH levels which can stop the vagina from self-cleaning, this can cause an infection which makes the vagina sore and smelly. So really, the best way to clean the vagina is to leave it alone!
This is thin folds of skin tissue at the opening of the vagina (which used to be called the hymen). Fingers or penises or tampons can stretch it during first time sex. Occasionally it might bleed or hurt when it’s stretched for the first time, but not for most. For more about the vaginal corona go here It used to be said that the ‘hymen’ is a membrane of skin tissue which breaks: this is no longer accurate.
The clitoris is the key for sexual pleasure for most women. Unless it is touched, stroked, licked or buzzed with a vibrator directly most females would not be able to have an orgasm.
If you look at the Vulva image above you’ll see that the clitoris looks quite small (about the size of a pea), but that’s only the bit that you can see. If you look at this image above you’ll see that the clitoris is actually really big. It is behind the labia and surrounds the vagina.
When a female is feeling sexy the clitoris fills with blood and swells up. The outside part doubles in size (so it’s the size of a large pea) and feels hard. It is packed with nerve endings (it has around 8000 nerve endings, this is twice as many as the end of the penis) and is very very sensitive. This is why lots of people like to touch it lightly at first (perhaps through the clitoral hood).
Here you can see a cross section inside view of the vagina. We (well not me, researchers and scientists) are still discovering new things about the vulva. There has been a lot of debate about the prostate gland (formerly known as the Skene’s Gland) and the G-Spot in recent years.
Prostate Gland
There is a gland similar in shape and size to the male prostate which surrounds the urethra (it varies in position). Some females ejaculate a fluid (similar to semen) when they orgasm. This fluid comes out of the urethra and because of this a lot of people have confused it with urinating (lots of women report that they feel like they want to pee when they are close to having an orgasm). Urination before sexy times can prevent this feeling during sex.
G Spot
Many people find that the upper or front wall of the vagina has an area which is particularly sensitive to the touch and can have orgasms from having this area stimulated – many people call this the G-spot. Not all women like this area to be touched but some really do (there are some sexual positions which can enhance stimulation to this area). We don’t know why some people like this area to be touched, some people think it’s because it presses up against the prostate gland (and can cause some to ejaculate).
For a video from me about this click here
For the abstract of the original research about female ejaculation go here
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Female Reproductive Organs womb, fallopians and ting…
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