Mutual Masturbation and Dry Humping – Why they are a very safe kind of sex

 

 

 

 

People get very worried about getting pregnant from masturbation and humping. Here are all my responses explaining why it is soooooo unlikely that someone can pregnant from this.

 

Mutual masturbation and dry humping have a very very very low risk of infection and a very very very very very very very very low risk of pregnancy. I have never heard of anyone getting pregnant from this.

To keep these extremely low risks even lower:

  • Mutual masturbation you wipe, dry or wash your hands if you touch your partner’s genitals before touching your own.
  • With dry humping, make sure that you are both at least wearing your underwear to keep it super safe.

Lots of people have written to me via this page saying that they are worried about being pregnant from this. I have answered lots of them to say that it’s incredibly unlikely that they are pregnant. Sometimes periods are late, particularly teenagers. In fact late or early periods are very very common for teens.

However I can not tell you whether you are pregnant or not - so please stop asking. In fact I have closed the comments now. If you’re really worried then get a test, or go and see a clinic (for more details click on the links in the sidebar)

For more detail about how fertilisation and pregnancy starts (and how actually it can be quite difficult to get pregnant) go to my post here. Find out more about pre-cum here. Some of my best Ask Bish responses about this are here, here, here. Find out more about going to a sexual health service here 

Here’s a summary of some advice I’ve given to other people about this.

even if he touches some cum and fingers you it would be unlikely to be pregnant? Thks

Ok I’ll try and set everyone’s mind at rest about fingering and pregnancy. There is very very very little chance of getting pregnant from fingering. Here’s why.

If a couple had penis in vagina sex, and sperm is ejaculated into the vagina, it is still not likely to lead to pregnancy. Sex has to happen at a particular time in the menstrual cycle in order for pregnancy even to be possible. This is just before ovulation. Even if a couple has sex at this time it is not definite that a pregnancy will happen (something like a 33% chance).

It is possible for someone to have penis in vagina sex once, even if it’s their first time, and get pregnant. It happens, but that doesn’t mean it’s likely. It’s unlikely.

So the odds of getting pregnant from penis in vagina sex are low. The odds of getting pregnant from fingering or naked humping are much much much lower than that. So if you ask me whether you are pregnant or not, I can’t say no but I can say ‘I am almost certain that you are not pregnant.’

Ok? Got that? So please just chill and wait for your periods to come. (which aren’t always regular, particularly if you are stressed).

So if you are going to finger and masturbate each other be sensible. Wipe or wash your hands to prevent infections in between touching each other, but enjoy it.

If you plan on penis in vagina sex then use condoms and another form of contraception such as the pill.

Hope this helps

Bish

if boy is not wearing anything and girl is wearing chudi pant and underwear if he keeps his pines near girls virgen only for 10seconds any chance is there get pegnent

Hello, thanks for your question.

It really does not sound like the girl can be pregnant.

The best way to get a girl or woman pregnant is to put your penis all the way into the vagina and to have sex until you ejaculate, or cum, inside her. If you do not do this then there is a very very low chance of pregnancy.

If you want to have sex, but do not want to get a girl pregnant, or get an infection like HIV, then put a condom on your penis.

Thanks for your question!

Bish

Is it possible to become pregnant by grinding while wearing only underwear?

I think that there is a 0.00000000001% risk of pregnancy doing this, (ie pretty much 0% risk). If you want to reduce this risk even further then make sure that the male doesn’t cum over the female’s knickers and make sure that both people are wearing pants. Try not to get too hung up over it or you won’t enjoy it.

Perhaps it might be an idea to start thinking about contraception and condoms though? At some stage (statistically likely) you may want to have full entry sex (penis in vagina) and it’s best to be used to your condoms and contraception before you have sex.

Hope this helps!

Bish

How long does sperm stay alive? Is it possible to get pregnant from dry sex while being naked if he recently ejaculated from oral sex?

Sperm can live inside someone’s body for up to 5 – 7 days. Out in the open it dies pretty quickly. The chances of getting pregnant from what you describe are very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very, very ,very, very low.

But you can pass infections on that way. Plus if you are getting this hot and heavy then you may both get carried away and have entry sex without you planning for it first. So take my advice. Go to a local young people’s clinic, or your GP to ask about contraception and condoms.

If you touch a guys penis with pre cum on it and then wait like 3 to five minutes and finger yourself would all the fluid be dry and there would be no risk of pregnancy?

You should know by now that I am very reluctant indeed to say that there would be no risk of pregnancy. However, like I said in previous answers, pre-cum is unlikely to contain sperm unless the penis holder hasn’t urinated since the previous ejaculation.

Sperm needs to be in wet and warm semen for it to survive. It may have dried after 3 to 5 minutes, it depends on the heat and dryness of your finger and the relative humidity where you live. It also depends on what you did with your finger, did it go all the way inside your vagina or just around the clit?

What I’m trying to say is that this case represents an extremely low risk of pregnancy. In the future maybe wipe your hands on his boxer shorts to make sure they are dry? Or keep tissues at hand?

My guy and I were messing around and I gave him a partial hand job and he didn’t ejaculate but I got some pre ejaculate on my fingers. It was about five minutes later I fingered myself pretty sure fingers were dry. Could I get pregnant?

Hi there, thanks for your question.

See my answer below about pre-cum and the Cowper’s Gland. It’s pretty unlikely that you can get pregnant from this but not impossible. However it is slightly more likely that you can get an infection.

My girlfriend and i were dry humping, she kept her underwear on but i had my penis out… i didn’t cum, and i don’t think i pre-came, but if i did in fact pre-cum, is there any chance she could get pregnant?

Hi, thanks for your question.

Pre-cum is fluid from the Cowper’s gland which is to change the pH balance of the urethra (pee pipe) in order for sperm to survive. The amount varies from penis to penis and isn’t always the same.

There is thought to be no sperm in pre-cum unless there is sperm left in the urethra from a previous ejaculation. If you urinated since the previous ejaculation then the sperm will have been washed away.

So, to answer your question, it’s highly unlikely that your girlfriend could have got pregnant.

But as I’ve said before. Things are getting pretty hot and heavy. Get some condoms and get used to putting them on in case you decide to have entry sex. When you are ready you will be ready to have entry sex straight away, so get prepared and take control of safety and contraception.

 

 

For more on Contraception and Services

How to Use Condoms

Sexual Health Services: what going to a clinic is like and what they do there

Hormonal Contraception

Non Hormonal Contraception

Busted! Contraception and Pregnancy Myths

How to Be An Amazing Lover Without Having Entry Sex

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99 responses to “Mutual Masturbation and Dry Humping – Why they are a very safe kind of sex

  1. Ellie

    Hello,
    me + my boyfriend were ‘dry humping’, he was in his boxers, and i had nothing on. I did ask him whether he cumed or not, and he said he was sure he didnt. Ive missed a period, but i have all the period signs, (cramps, i also get a bad back, ect) but i havnt came on yet? ive had regular periods for 2 years, whats wrong? Am i pregnant?

    • bishtraining

      Hi Ellie

      My first answer in my post above should tell you that it’s *extremely* unlikely that you are pregnant. Periods can become irregular for many many reasons. If you are really worried then get a test.

      When your period comes, come back and let us know.

      Bish

  2. Nicole

    hello,
    my boyfriend and i were dry humping, he was wearing basketball shorts without underwear while i was wearing underwear. last week was when i was suppose to get my period (i was suppose to get it tuesday august 10th) i started bleeding lightly on monday, i was still bleeding lightly on tuesday and i saw my boyfriend on wednesday and asked him if he cumed or not the last time we were together. he said no, and that he was absolutly sure (i couldn’t stop asking him). after wednesday the bleeding got heavier on thursday and friday it was really heavy and the bleeding stopped saturday night. was that my period? i’ve been really stressed because of all of this and i read that stress can make your period lighter. some of the stress was taken off after my boyfriend said nothing happened which i think is why the bleeding got heavier. i just want to make sure because im still kind of stressed. im sorry if that was all too much information and if i sound crazy, but i just would like to know if im pregnant.

    • bishtraining

      I’m not a Doctor or a Nurse and I don’t have a pregnancy testing kit or a sample of your urine, so I can’t tell you whether you are pregnant or not. It’s amazingly unlikely to get pregnant this way.

      It sounds like you had a period but if you want re-assurance then go to your Doctor or a clinic.

      Bish

  3. Mr haha

    Hi, just wanna ask. Well, I masturbate for my girlfriend once a week, and I did not cum out during the process. I also did dry humping with her, she was wearing her panty while I’m wearing my pants with underwear, and I did cum during the process. Now she has missed her period by 5days already. And she told me 3 days ago, she had a slight bleeding, and she thought it’s mens, however it stopped.

    Another problem is, I have the tendency of masturbating for myself on my bed everyday, and I would bring my girlfriend home to masturbate for her on the same bed. And she did not masturbate for me nor my fingers were stain with cum when i finger her. So is it possible for her to get pregnant?

    • Mr haha

      Btw sorry. I forgot to mention that I was positioned on her leg when I cum.

      • bishtraining

        It’s very unlikely to get pregnant from humping, particularly if you are wearing pants. Girls periods vary a lot. Often they are late, or early, or lighter or heavier. This is normal.

        It’s impossible for your girlfriend to get pregnant from masturbating on a bed which you have previously masturbated on. Sperm dies in the open air and once the semen is dry you can be pretty sure that the sperm is dead.

        Perhaps think about using a tissue or a sock or a condom to catch the cum though? It’s just neater and more hygienic that way.

  4. rey

    hello
    my girlfriend is a virgen so we decided to have dry sex and now she told me that she is one week late on her period! i was wearing underwear only when we were dry humping. do you think she is pregnant! im really worry. and well she is too. ohh and i did not cum

    • bishtraining

      Hey Rey

      Like I said in the post above; it is very unlikely that she is pregnant. Girl’s periods can be late for lots of reasons. Just try to wait and be patient and when her period does come, reply here.

      Bish

  5. LeeLa

    Hey Well I dry Hump With My Guy And He Came On My Pants. But The Wet Spot Wasnt On My Vagina Area It Was On Like The Inside Of My Thihs Under My Vagina. I Haven’t Had My Period This Month Yet But Yet I’m Scared Because I think I be prego Nd Like My Stomach Is A Little Bigger Then It’s Supposed To Be. I’m Sooo Scared

    • bishtraining

      Like I say, it is very very difficult to get pregnant this way and periods are random in teenage girls.

      Could you do me a favour? When your period does come, can you come back and tell everyone? It will set everyone’s mind at rest.

      Bish

  6. kyoka

    Me and my wife had our first entry sex yet I didn’t cum. Her last menstruation was on October 16-20 and we had the affair on the late afternoon of November 8, on the late evening of the same date (Nov. 8), she experienced fatigue, cough and colds, and stomach pains. Is there a tendency that she is pregnant? **She was bitten by several mosquitos on the afternoon of Nov.7, pregnancy or malaria caused by mosquito virus?

  7. bishtraining

    Hey everyone

    Sorry to sound blunt, but please don’t ask me if you are pregnant any more. If you read everything in this post it should tell you that getting pregnant is not actually that easy, so getting pregnant from fingering and humping is very rare.

    My advice is to either wait for your periods to come (which don’t always come at the right time), or to get a pregnancy test.

    Best wishes

    Bish

  8. sara

    hey we were dry humping, i was wearing my underwear and he was not. i dont know if he came or not, are der any chances of me being pregnant ?

    • sara

      also there was no literal penetration .

      • bishtraining

        I really really don’t think you can be pregnant from this. Try not to worry. Will you do me a *big* favour? Come back here when your period comes and tell us. It will set other people’s minds at rest.

  9. alexis

    okay so me and my boyfriend were masturbating together and whatever, and he was doing himself and im not sure if he touched the tip of himself or not. why i’m worried is because he only urinated once and we did this like three times…and then he fingered me a bunch of times. is there more of a chance since he fingered me alot more and went really deep

    • bishtraining

      If he definitely had sperm on his hands and then fingered you deeply then there is more chance of getting pregnant. However, compared with the chances of getting pregnant from penis in vagina sex without a condom the chances are very very very low indeed.

      The same goes for STIs too, if he had a discharge at the tip of his penis then he could have given you an infection but the chances of this are very low compared with penis in vagina or anus sex without a condom.

      Try not to worry and please give us feedback here to say everything was ok.

      Justin (Bish)

  10. Shaun

    Is it possible to get someone else pregnant by accident through you masturbating then they somehow manage to get sperm inside of them (sitting where you came, touching something with cum then touching themselves) ?

    Cheers,
    Shaun

    • bishtraining

      It is theoretically possible but not likely. If sperm gets in the vagina then it can lead to pregnancy. However even penis in vagina sex with no condoms doesn’t lead to pregnancy every time. The chances of getting pregnant from masturbation are very very low.

      Justin

  11. Ross

    If me and my boyfriend were dry humping, fully clothed, and he had a pre-cum stain on his pants, could I be pregnant?:(

  12. Sylvester

    I showered with my girlfriend twice yesterday, before we went out and when we came back and during the first shower, she gave me a handjob and I achieved an orgasm.

    I did not finger her nor did she finger herself and she washed her hands immediately after I ejaculated. However though, there were a few times we started getting hot and when there were pre-cum on my “thing”, it brushed on her back and on her tummy a few times.

    Is it possible to get pregnant like this? Maybe our hands did come close near her vagina region but only her thighs though.

    • bishtraining

      Hi Sylvester

      I really don’t think it’s possible to get pregnant from what you describe. You’re concerned about pre-cum. You can only get a small number of sperm in pre-cum if you have not had a pee since the previous ejaculation. If you peed after your last ejaculation (which you probably did) there wouldn’t have been any sperm in your pre-cum.

      Even if there was sperm in your pre-cum (unlikely) then your penis would have to be a lot nearer the entrance to her vagina than you describe.

      Please chill. Enjoy the sexy stuff you are doing and make sure your getting clean in those showers too ;-)

      Justin

      Bish

      • Sylvester

        Then again, if she sat on a spot of wet semen with clothes on, is it possible to get pregnant?

        And if I actually touch her vagina but not finger her without cleaning my hands after it has contact with my ejaculation, is it possible to get pregnant for her? (she has her panty on at the least).

  13. Daniel

    Hi.

    Recently I dry-humped my girlfriend and I only had my underwear on. She had her panty and pants made of jeans material on. I actually had a wet spot of pre-cum on my briefs and as she was worried, (might sound ridiculous) she placed a tissue in between her panty and her pants in her vaginal region.

    Is it possible for her to get pregnant still in this way?

  14. Samuel

    Hi bish.

    I recently dry-humped my girlfriend and we were both only on our undergarment. I had a spot of pre-cum on my briefs as I saw it afterwards.
    However it was already after the entire process. There were no sexual intercourse at all and this dry humping was something entirely new to us and she seemed to like it. So it went on whenever we had the chance to for around a week or so. She was supposed to get her period last week but she missed it.

    She usually has a regular period.

    And being a very comfortable girl that expresses everything around me she said a girl usually gets discharges before her period but she didn’t really get any this time. Is that linked to pregnancy? I do not know about her other times when she didn’t get any discharge because she said its only usually not all the time. As for her previous period it was also late for around a week. It was like any normal one as she stated that it lasted around 5 days. And there were no abnormalities.

    P/S: We are having a major examinations due in 18 days and we’re all really stressed out. Although she doesn’t think that she is pregnant and does not worry about it, the exams are stressing her out alot and is that likely the reason why she missed her period? (she said it might be miscalculated though)

    As of now, she does not suffer from back pains, headaches, or feel any cramps. She does not feel very dehydrated or feel tired easily.

  15. Damien

    Bish
    I touched a wet cum spot on my trousers and about a minute later I fingered a girl, can she get pregnant?

  16. lorenzo

    My girlfriend and i had outercourse specifically humping with clothes on. We had a heavy and hot dry sex so i came near her vagina. Im wearing shorts, boxers and briefs that time ; and she is wearing jeans and panty. She told me that her panty was soaked with her own fluid. My brief and boxers were soaked with semen. I found wet spots in her jeans near vagina. Are there any possibilities that she may get pregnant if those fluids meet? Im so scared since it was our first outercourse and we are just teens.

  17. Tolu

    Me n my bf had a dry humping,i gave him a handjob with his boxers on and he also fingered me but i was with sanitary pad and my pant on though he neva touched my vargina just the outside of my panties i noticed that when i was giving him a handjob he ejaculated on my hand and blouse,i immediately changed ma blouse and my bf went to have his bath and afterwards we continued the dry humping,handjob and fingering with the same sanitary pad n panties on and the same boxers can i get pregnant through that cause i am realy worried?

  18. Adrian

    hey my girlfriend and i had oral for the first time yesterday. She just finished her period(2 days ago). We only had oral sex, and I didn’t cum. She was fully naked and I only had my jocks on, which are cotton. We were in a missionary position, and I was on top. I’m scared that precum might of seeped through my jocks and around her vaginal area when I was on top of her. What are the chances of my girlfriend being pregnant?

    • Adrian

      additional info: there was no penetration, Just rubbing of my penis through my jocks around her vagina, when I was on top of her.

      • bishtraining

        I’d be amazed if she was pregnant from this. It’s unlikely that there is any sperm in pre-cum http://bishuk.com/2009/07/22/balls-and-cum/ particularly if you urinated before your previous ejaculation.

        It’s not as easy as you think to get pregnant: the advice for couples wanting to get pregnant is to have penis in vagina sex, with ejaculation fully inside the vagina, as frequently as possible.

        Please come back here and tell us when your girlfriend gets her period.

        Justin
        Bish

  19. Samuel

    Hey there bish.

    I have a girlfriend of 2 months that has been really close with me lately. We haven’t had sex nor anything close it and the closest was when she lie on my lap and that’s all. However, her period is already 11 days late. She usually has a regular cycle as well. She woke up in the middle of the night feeling queasy last night and still feels queasy when she woke up.

    Also, she slept way longer than usual. Then again, we did not have sex. Not even mutual masturbation, dry humping or anything at all. This year is our year for the GCSE “O” Levels examination and we’re left with approximately 80 days. However she say she doesn’t really sense the urgency or stress.

    Is there really any way at all to be even pregnant?

    • bishtraining

      Hey Samuel

      Periods for teenage girls can be really random. It’s really not unusual at all for a period to be days or weeks late, even if they normally have regular cycles. This is particularly so if someone is stressed or they have changed their diet. People also get queasy for many many different reasons.

      Please try not to worry. To get pregnant someone needs to have sperm in their vagina. Even penis in vagina sex with ejaculation doesn’t always lead to pregnancy, as explained here http://bishuk.com/2010/09/14/female-fertility-explained/

      Report back when she does get her period again. She isn’t worried about it and nor should you be.

      Justin

      PS I’m not that old! I have GCSEs myself! Good luck with them. Now go tell your friends about Bish.

  20. WeNeedHelp

    my girlfriend and i were having a shower, and i ejaculated on her chest, she then washed it off with the shower tap, is there any chance of her getting pregnant , as the water acted as a medium to get to her vagina?

    • bishtraining

      Hi there

      I’d be amazed if your girlfriend got pregnant this way.

      The sperm would have to have stayed alive on her body and then found a way into her vagina. Even if the water was at the exact temperature to keep the sperm alive I expect the water and gravity would have meant that the sperm would be down the plughole and not in her vagina.

      Try not to worry and please please report back when you realise that she isn’t pregnant.

      Justin

      • WeNeedHelp

        She wasnt pregnant thank you, thought i dont see how the report helps, cause there will be no chance like you said. but can proper be sex ad give, is it actually possible?

  21. Panh3ad18

    Hello. Ok first of all I have been reading these comments and can assure you that my comment has NOTHING to do with pregnancy. So you can set your mind at ease. My question however is this. I have a verrry close female friend, you could pretty much say we are dating. Anyway we have taken things pretty far and I know she is 110% comfortable with this. However sometimes she confuses me. One day we will mess around and have fun and then be in the same exact situation a few days later but she will be completley against doing anything. I don’t want to push her but it’s extremely hard for me not to when I’m in the mood and ready to go. Any helpful tips/advice??

  22. Anonymous

    Hey
    About 2 and a half weeks ago my boyfriend and I were dry humping I was wearing underwear and he was naked. After that he was rubbing me and fingering me then I gave him a handjob until he almost ejaculated, I don’t know if any pre-ejaculation got on my underwear from dry humping or anything like that.
    Could I be pregnant or not??

    • Anonymous

      I would really appreciate an answer asap. I am unsure whether I’m pregnant or nor. I have bloating, gas and my tummy feels different.. I just cane off the pill a month ago and havnt had a period since coming off it yet. I normally bloat before my period and have a little gas, bur my tummy doesn’t normally feel like this.

      • bishtraining

        Hey

        As I’ve said above, I can’t tell you whether you are pregnant or not. The only way to find out is by getting a pregnancy test. These are available in the UK from a service near you http://www.nhs.uk/servicedirectories/Pages/ServiceSearchAdditional.aspx?ServiceType=SexualHealthService

        The risk of you getting pregnant from masturbation is very very low indeed: the fact that you were wearing pants reduces this risk even further. As I’ve explained here http://bishuk.com/2010/09/14/female-fertility-explained/ if you were trying to get pregnant you would need to have penis in vagina sex with the penis ejaculating inside you.

        Remember that also periods are random, especially for teenage girls, especially at times of stress and especially with changes of diet. It’s very common for them to be late or early, which can be frightening in a situation like yours. Try not to worry.

        You mention coming off the pill. Periods on the pill often feel different to people when they are off the pill (they aren’t the same as periods when not using a hormonal contraception).

        You seem very very worried about getting pregnant from an extremely low risk activity. I think it might be a good idea for you to go back to where you got the pill from and discuss alternative methods of contraception which may suit you.

        To make the activity you describe even safer, you could just make sure that your partner’s penis doesn’t go near your vulva or you could put a condom on the penis.

        Hope this helps

        Justin

      • bishtraining

        How are things?

  23. Anonymous

    Hey about 2 and a half weeks ago my boyfriend and I were dry hunting, I was wearing underwear he was naked. I don’t know of there was any pre cum in my underwear or not, after this he rubbed me and fingered me and I then gave him a handjob until almost ejaculation.
    Could I be pregnant??

  24. Kenneth

    Hi bish.
    I started heavy petting with my girlfriend last night and this being new and “enjoyable” to us we kept doing it. And today, we both got naked and although I didn’t finger her, I rubbed her vagina. I did have pre-cum but I don’t think I got any of it on my finger.

    She’s on the 7th day of her period cycle, 3 days after the end of her period. Is it possible to get pregnant this way?

  25. curious

    hi Bish,
    i was weaing my under garment and pajama and my boyfriend was wearing undergarment and pant. we both gave handjob to each other while cloths on. my pants and pajama got quite wet and so his underware but i ddnt feel any wetness on his pant. it was 7th day from first day of my cycle. Is there any chance of pregnancy?
    Thanks in advance.

    • curious

      Hi Bish,
      awaiting your reply.
      thanks
      curious

      • bishtraining

        There would only be a chance of pregnancy if you masturbated him – he ejaculated on your fingers – you immediately put your fingers in your vaginal opening. Even if you did do this there would still only be a very small chance of pregnancy.

        Next time you want to ask a question please can you do it via ASK at the top of the page – I see questions more quickly then.

        Justin – Bish

      • curious

        thanks bish, i m not pregnant…thanks for ur reply…

  26. jay

    Hi, me and my girl friend were dry humping earlier, we were both just in underwear and I did ejaculate in my boxers and she was wet as I had been fingering her is it possible to get pregnant from this?

    • bishtraining

      Hi Jay

      As you might have gathered I don’t like to say whether things are possible or not. It’s extraordinarily unlikely that she’ll get pregnant from this.

      Sperm would have to travel through your boxers (not that easy) and then past her underwear and then inside her vagina, past her cervix, into the womb and then the fallopian tubes. That is a very long way.

      Even if you ejaculated inside her vagina at the most fertile time in her cycle she won’t get pregnant every time.

      So try not to worry about it.

      Justin

      • jay

        Thanks a lot, put my mind at rest her period is due in about a week so I will post and let you know.

      • bishtraining

        No worries. It’d be great if you posted again!

      • jay

        Hi Bish
        Thanks for everything, my now ex girlfriend is not pregnant as she had her period yesterday. This has been the kick I needed to start taking thing like this more seriously.

      • bishtraining

        No worries Jay. You can use condoms if you want to reduce the risk of dry humping to absolutely zero.

  27. hi, i pulled off my pant and she did it, i wore a condom , i just pre ejaculated inside condom however it didn’t come out, and she asked me to come over her underwear so i just been there.. sleeping on her(mildly rubbing) after that we got up and while kissing i blew it and at that time , we were not in contact at all.. so what are my chances.. i asked her if she was dry .. she said she was dry ..

  28. Shikha

    Hi Bish..
    I need ur help..
    today i was with my boyfriend.. I was in panty and he was totally naked. he was rubbing on my vagina with his penis. After a few minutes we realised that he had cum on my panty.. and the semen had penetrated throgh the inside of panty. I washed vagina after that. I m really afraid if i m going to be pregnant or not.. Please help..

  29. Ben

    I am masturbating then after i ejaculate , around 1 or 2 min i finger my girlf will she got pregnant and her period are late this month

    • bishtraining

      I’m not sure I understand your question, but remember periods are often late. Periods can be random, particularly for teenagers.

  30. Jericho

    HI Bish
    I really need your help :(
    I’m not really in good condition because of the nervousness from my problem

    Before I fingered my girlfriend I might had some precum on my fingers because I adjusted my penis I didn’t know if it got in her when i fingered her It might had dried off but it was just a small amount :(

    I only rubbed and touched the clitoris part of her vagina because she’s still a virgin could she get pregnant from this?

    Please reply

  31. Isabel

    I had sex without protection, and he didnt cum at all. only precum. After that though we had a shower and I gave him a hand job, we were both sitting in water and he did finger me afterwards and cum did come on my body but not my vagina or anywhere inside. I dont think I could get pregnant from this but ive been needing to pee all the time lately which isnt normal, ive had heart burn three times which I havent had before and I havent gotten my period for over 4 weeks. also I do feel like my stomach is bigger but that observation could be wrong. last time we had sex was just over 3 weeks or so ago. Am I pregnant or what is wrong?

    • bishtraining

      I think although it’s unlikely that you are pregnant, you should probably get a pregnancy test just to make sure. It’s unlikely to get pregnant without full ejaculation but it’s definitely possible because he could have cum a bit without realising. You really should avoid having unprotected penis in vagina sex if you want to avoid pregnancy. For more on this read http://bishuk.com/2011/10/12/withdrawal-before-coming/

  32. paula

    hi Bish,
    i had sex with my fiance without protection on the 13th day of my menstrual cycle and afterwards he apologized for coming too quickly, but i felt dry when he pulled out, even when i washed my virgina, it felt like he didn’t ejaculate. my question is; am i likely to get pregnant from this intercourse?

    • bishtraining

      Hi

      It’s possible that you could be pregnant, but I can’t tell you how likely it is. It depends on whether he did in fact ejaculate inside you (which we don’t know) and whether this happened within 7 days before ovulation. If you had a menstrual cycle of over 26 days this time around then you could have had sex in your most fertile time.

      More about fertility here http://bishuk.com/2010/09/14/female-fertility-explained/

      So what to do? If sex happened within 5 days you could go to a clinic to discuss emergency contraception. If your period is 2 weeks late you could go to a clinic to get a pregnancy test. If you’re in the UK these services are free from a service near you (click on the links in the sidebar ‘A Service Near You’ or here)

      You might also want to share your worries with your fiance.

      Hope this helps

      Justin (Bish)

  33. aaron

    hi bish
    me and my girlfriend have done a good bit of ” sexual” stuff latey such as dry humping in which both of us were fully clothed. but i also fingered her and im not sure if i had cum on my fingers but i didnt go the whole way in. in another instance i rubbed her also not going in too far but i had masterbated the night before is there anychance she could be pregnant? also could she get pregnant if i rubbed her outside her panties? i would love a answer asap as her period should be coming up now.
    thank you.

    • bishtraining

      I very much doubt she is pregnant. Just sit tight, wait for her period to arrive and wait for your feelings of anxiety to leave you.

      Justin (Bish)

      • aaron

        thanks bish but i cant sit still i hate this what chances are they that she could be its drivin me mad?

      • aaron

        bish please help me my girlfriend just had a yellow discharge i really am freaking out her period should of came on tuesday bish please replly soon its the same aaron btw. please tell me shes not pregnant

    • bishtraining

      Aaron, from what you’ve said, the chances of pregnancy are either zero or pretty close to zero. Remember also that periods don’t always come on time – particularly for young women. Stress can delay periods.

      Read more about fertility here http://bishuk.com/2010/09/14/female-fertility-explained/

      I’m not going to respond any more because I think I’m making you more anxious not less. Think about your anxiety – do you get this anxious about other things? Have you ever talked to someone about it (someone you know in real life)?

      Justin

      • aaron

        hey bish,
        thank you i am kind of calm now, but she is not she asked me to ask you what could be prolonging it and what is she to look for when they are coming so far she had growing pains, yellow discharge, pimple on her chin, back pain and more i think she is nervous how do i calm her down?
        thank you last one i promise.

  34. anthony

    Hi bish,

    I had a session of dry humping with my girlfriend yesterday. As things were starting to get hot, I removed my pants and subsequently my underwear and humped her with my penis. She was wearing a panty liner inside her panties. However, after awhile I noticed that her panties were wet from my pre-ejaculation. However it is slightly above her pantyliner, pretty high up (or far away from the vagina?)

    It was the 11th day of her period cycle (likely her most fertile as well?). I’m kind of worried that she might get pregnant. Is there any possibility?

  35. Josh

    So me and my girlfriend were sitting in a chair. She was on top of me but she had a thing and yoga pants on. I didn’t have any pants on. She was rubbing her vagina agianst my penis but I never came. Is it possible for her to be pregnant

    • bishtraining

      I would be very surprised indeed if she got pregnant from this.

      • Josh

        I mean, there is no way my penis could have went into her vagina because she had a thong plus those thin yoga pants on. She said she could feel it in her though.. Im just paranoid please reply back

      • Josh

        Bish please reply back

      • bishtraining

        Josh, I’ve replied. It’s very unlikely that she is pregnant from this. If you wanted to get her pregnant you would have to ejaculate inside her vagina. Periods are often late for young people. This is the last I’m going to say to you, ok?

        Best wishes

        Bish

  36. nena213

    me and my boyfriend had sex dec. 2nd and he didnt cumm inside me he came on the outside near my vaqina and i was supposed to recive my period after my mom and she qot over hers 3 dayss aqoo i had crampinq last niqht but noo blood , ccould i be preqnaunt?

  37. akash

    i have a question ,me and my gf were messing around she ws naked but i was in my underwear,some precum came out and made my undies wet a little and she sat o my penis over my undies so is there any chance of her getting pregnent????

    • bishtraining

      Very very very unlikely. Sperm needs to ejaculate inside a vagina for a pregnancy to start. Did she get a period?

  38. aaron

    hey man im just wondering is it possible to get pregnant from dry humping fully clothed and ejaculating but before that rubbing my girlfriends vagina. this all happened right after her period ended. is it at all possible she is pregnant? please respond soon , thank you

    • bishtraining

      Sperm needs to be ejaculated into a vagina for a pregnancy to start. I can’t tell you whether someone is pregnant or not.

  39. sam

    hey bish

    my girlfriend’s period is late for about 4 days now. however, she was overseas for about 11 days prior to this and had fever while she was away. as of today, she is still quite sick with cough and flu.

    while she was away, we had an argument for like 3 days and she was very upset. however, before she went away, we had sessions of mutual masturbation and dry humping and there were occasions i would not be wearing anything and humping her with just my penis. she would be wearing her panties and a pantyliner though, although it happened once with just her panties without her pantyliner.

    could she be pregnant?

    • swetha

      me and my bf have dry humping as we have underwear on but he didnt ejaculated later he fingered me deeply but he didnt touched the penis and now i got my period 2 days before the date and less flow with cramping what does it meam im scared i dont want pregnant

      • bishtraining

        Sperm needs to be ejaculated into a vagina for a pregnancy to start. I can’t tell you whether someone is pregnant or not.

    • bishtraining

      Sperm needs to be ejaculated into a vagina for a pregnancy to start. I can’t tell you whether someone is pregnant or not. Remember that periods are often late.

  40. leeroy

    is it possible/likely to get pregnant this way?

    me and my girlfriend usually dry hump with our underwears on, after which i would take her underwear off and then rub her clit or vagina region until she orgasms. i would be still be wearing my clothes. sometimes i wouldn’t be wearing my underwear and i would dry hump her and i noticed that it sometimes would cause her panties to be wet from my precum at some parts.

    after i rub her clitoris, she would put on her panties and proceed to give me a handjob until i come.

    her previous period was 8 days late and the current one is now 11 days late and it’s starting to worry me quite a bit. although her period came the latest at 16 days late last time without warning, it became regular again and now it’s all messed up. also, would it be risky if i masturbated the previous night and my underwear was soaked and then i proceed to dry hump her in the same underwear the next day? would it cause her to be pregnant?

    she fell sick for quite a few days this month and doesn’t have any pregnancy symptoms, although she had a little bit of cramping a few days before she had a very bad fever.

    pls help bish

    • bishtraining

      I can’t tell you whether she is pregnant or not, but I can tell you that it’s almost impossible to get pregnant that way and I’ve never heard of anyone getting pregnant in the way you describe.

      Periods are often not timely for young women. It’s quite normal for periods not to come when expected.

      Justin / Bish